Finding your purpose as a married woman and living your life with passion is the way to unlock its full potential. Life has so much more to offer, if only we are willing to take that step. Majority of women stop growing after they get married, they feel that with marriage they reach nirvana and marriage is the ultimate destination of a girl’s life, and et voila you have reached it.
Now what are you going to do next, what are you going to do when you feel like you’re being left out and you’re not being productive? Will you compare yourself to others and feel sorry for yourself, or will you like to ride against the tide and do something for yourself?
Finding your purpose as a married woman
Why is it so hard to come out of our own cocoon? What are the factors responsible for harnessing our growth and development as a person? What is holding you back or preventing you from finding your life’s purpose?
In my last article, I had talked about it importance of taking charge of your life as a married woman In short, today I’m going to share with you 10 stressors that are preventing you from finding your purpose as a married woman.
| 1.) Social normsBecause all norms are made only for women. A woman is expected to behave in a certain way after she gets married and so finding your purpose as a married woman becomes a distant dream. She becomes the representative of a household suddenly and is expected to perform all her duties with absolute devotion and selfless love. |
| 2.) StereotypesThese same old wives tales, come down from centuries to generations to generations. Gender stereotyping or any other discrimination prevents a woman from growing in so many ways. The list could be endless and how it affects the mindset of women is disheartening. |
| 3.) PatriarchyAlthough much has been said about equality these days, there is a larger part where women are still discriminated against in wages, promotions and some are not even allowed to go out and work just because they are WOMEN. |
| 4.) Adverse EnvironmentToo many family members, too many responsibilities, some elderly person who is sick or too dependent on you. You want to achieve a lot, but due to an unfavorable environment, you don’t even get time to focus on your life purpose. |
| 5.) Access RestrictionsYou don’t have the ease of access. You don’t get information and you don’t keep up with the latest trends because you are not in such an environment. The people you live with have no purpose in life and don’t encourage you to find one either, it drags you down again. |
| 6.) Family restrictionsOne of the major contributors to stopping you from finding your purpose as a married woman. You are the center of everyone’s universe. You keep the house running and keep everything flowing in your home, so no one ever thinks about your dreams and desires. |
| 7.) Family responsibilityWhen you are burdened with many responsibilities, even when you are a working career woman, sometimes you don’t enjoy what you do, maybe because you are the sole breadwinner, maybe you are a single mom. The situation varies from woman to woman and family plays a very vital role in helping a woman change it, but the sad truth is that it hardly ever happens. |
| 8.) Lack of supportYou are available to everyone, but when you want to figure something out, you lack that strong support system that says go ahead, we are there to support you. A woman doesn’t need everything served on a plate, but all she needs is confidence and a few words of encouragement. It gives her a major push to move forward and go after things she aspires to. |
| 9.) ILL HealthFor someone dealing with multiple health issues, hormonal imbalance, postpartum depression, parenting challenges, it becomes even more stressful to find one’s IKIGAI in the process. They lose their inner space and you will hardly find someone to lift you up or remind you to get ready. |
| 10.) Emotional imbalanceHow can losing your emotional balance keep you from finding your purpose as a married woman? Emotional balance it is the ability of the mind and body to maintain balance and flexibility in the face of challenge and change. Once we are bombarded with responsibilities and duties, we lose our balance and then we stop growing. |
A quick exercise to help you find your true purpose in life
- Grab a pen and paper
- Sit in a quiet place
- Write a job you are good at
- Write down a skill you love to pursue
Now think from this perspective. What you are good at could be something you do outside of your qualifications and understanding that can pay you well. What you love to pursue could be something you’re passionate about, but you’re not sure if you could pursue it as a career, right?
Now if you really want to follow your passion, write where you lack to pursue it? Do you need to brush up on your knowledge to get started or have you completely lost touch with your interest?
To add further, ask yourself one more question, can you earn something from your passion or can you be content with the satisfaction you will derive from following something you love to do even when you won’t get paid for it? Sort your answers.
With this, you will be able to get to a point where you will become more clear about finding your purpose as a married woman who still dreams of shining and ruling her world.
10 Ways to Find Your Purpose as a Married Woman
I have been married for a long time and believe me it was not my goal in life to be a full time blogger. I have a master’s degree in business administration with relevant work experience, but when I found that I could no longer go out and work because I was going through critical time treatment, I found my peace and solace in writing. How; Writing poetry was my passion and combined it with my purpose.
I started writing, learning, upgrading and it kept me going, took me to places I never imagined I would witness, helped me overcome and unlock the real me.
1.) Start living each day
Get up and be great. Don’t wake up anxious. Love your life even though you may feel sad about it, embrace it and own each day of your life. I know life is hard, but you don’t have to make hard choices and be hard on yourself.
2.) Make yourself your priority
In the daily hustle and bustle of meeting everyone’s expectations and keeping everything in order, we forget to take a breath and then get frustrated at how we sacrifice ourselves every step of the way, but who cares? So why not treat yourself a little in the process.
3.) Invest in yourself
Invest a little time, a little courage, a little strength, and a little money if you must, and learn something. Meet like-minded people. Create a circle that uplifts you and helps you learn something new.
4.) Take charge of your life
Taking on your life as a married woman and being a married woman, I would say that like you, I too have been through many ups and downs in life, but I have never stopped feeding my soul and that kept me going.
5.) Be a fan
Don’t wait for the right moment or the right opportunity, just grab it. Become a coach. Stand up for the things you believe in and work around them.
6.) Pick up another woman
Do you know that the biggest change you can make in your life is to empower other women around you? You can become a voice for many, you can represent a cause or simply help someone overcome the daily obstacles of her life.
7.) Never be afraid to work hard
The journey of miles begins with a single step, but taking that first step is the most critical task you have to do, just because of the fear of the journey that people hold back. Don’t do that.
8.) Don’t look for excuses, look for perspectives
I have seen many women around me make excuses like I don’t have time, I have housework, I have to manage the children. So let me tell you that almost all women do the same thing, but we have many prominent personalities who have set an example to aspire and not look for excuses. Finding your purpose as a married woman is in your hands as most obstacles are mind made, smash them.
9.) Seize the equal opportunity you get every day
You have 24 hours, I have 24 hours, Michelle Obama or Indira Nouy have 24 hours. What we get out of those 24 hours is what changes our stories. So why not use some hours to your advantage?
10.) Only you can change your life
Only you have the power to change your life, no matter how favorable or worse your situation is, there is always something you can do in your life, so please grab the power as no one will give you the power.
In closing, I would say before you think that I have a very easy life, somewhere on this planet, in my cozy room, sitting with a laptop and suggesting that these things are easy and not at all applicable. Let me tell you that I have been through many difficult situations in my life and I thank them for making me who I am today and I refuse to be a victim of my circumstances so if I can you can and if you can your daughter can. Together we can empower each other. Take charge of your life. Have a blessed one.
Gratitude.
