Is it okay to be imperfect and still be happy? 6 Challenges

Is it okay to be imperfect and still be happy? Is it okay not to get everything sorted at once? Is it okay to be totally imperfect and yet embrace the glorious mess we are? Too many questions to start with, but isn’t it worth asking yourself these questions once in a while? To not be hard on yourself? Oops, questions again. You see, even though I’m not perfect, many feel I am, what’s important to me is that I’m happy, I’m content, and I sleep contented.

In this blog, let’s talk about it “be perfect” pressure a woman goes through in her life and how it’s okay to be imperfect in the already messy world around us.

Is it okay to be imperfect?

We all know the very famous Harry Potter and I came across a beautiful quote from Professor Dumbledore where he tells Harry that there is never a perfect answer in this messy, emotional world. Perfection is beyond the limits of humanity, beyond the limits of magic. In every shining moment of happiness lies that drop of poison: the knowledge that pain will come again. Be honest with the ones you love and show your pain. Suffering is as human as breathing.

I wonder the day we become perfect, what will we do next? What will we thrive for? If all our goals are achieved, if we become the most perfect version of ourselves, and if I become the most perfect blogger, what do I do next?

For me, the pressure of maintaining and maintaining that perfectionism is greater than the pressure of becoming perfect at everything I do. I would like to be imperfect because, through this process, I never stop learning, growing and living. The day I knew everything, I might not like it anymore.

Six imperfect challenges a woman faces in her everyday life

Women do it all the time, we seek perfection in everything, in our bodies, in our relationships, in the kitchen, as parents and as working women. I feel like many other things, perfection does not exist. We can literally destroy the beauty of our lives in a pursuit of perfection.

We strive to be a perfect bride to please our mother-in-law who we don’t even like and just to be in her good books we begin to lose ourselves, what will we be left with in the end? We try to look beautiful all the time so that our husbands still find us attractive, we try to match the frenzy of motherhood and we try to be perfect in cooking skills too.

For some women, these things come naturally, and some force and push themselves to match them, compete with them, even surpass them, which leaves them anxious and disturbed in the end. Let go of every baggage you hold and drop all the levels of expectation and pressure you store just to look perfect all the time. Only then will you discover your true self and you will love what you become in the process.

Here are the challenges we face in our daily life as a woman:

1.) Lady Beautiful

There is this set of women for whom looking good is the primary essence of their daily life. They have set a beauty benchmark for themselves and don’t want to go below the mark. They will rise and set and then appear. For some time they enjoy it, but just when they are busy with their daily life, housework, office work and especially after becoming a mother, somehow they don’t have time to lay down everyday and in one place they miss it, they crave it because it is their idea of ​​perfectionism.

How will it not cost you peace of mind? You will feel irritated, anxious and not feeling like yourself because it is a completely imperfect version of your life, but let me tell you something with the change of time and situation, you can always find some perfect ways without being hard on yourself. IIt’s okay to be imperfect, but not to be unhappy with yourself.

2.) Mrs. Masterchef

Women and the kitchen go hand in hand, as women spend most of their lives in the kitchen, they feel that the kitchen is the only place they own, and for some women, life is all about balancing the right amount of salt in the food. I’ve seen my mum panic if she misses putting salt in her food or if her curry doesn’t turn out the way she wanted, even though she’s actually won a MasterChef trophy.

The pressure she goes through just because she has to be perfect in the kitchen all the time annoys me and I keep telling her that maa, you serve us unconditionally and, you cook the most delicious food in the world, so it’s totally okay to cook an average meal one day. This is what we have to tell ourselves, that yes, it’s okay, today the salt is more and the spices are less, I will cook better tomorrow and leave the guilt there.

3.) Mrs. Mom

The new Social Media culture leaves many mothers with anxiety when they see other mothers balancing everything so perfectly. They work out, they look good all the time, their kids look well-groomed and when you look at your kid who just jumped over your head and stole your cell phone, you curse your life.

Let me tell you something, you will hardly see anyone posting reality on Instagram or Facebook. We all post our perfect photos telling perfect stories of our lives. No one posts about their failure and how they are struggling to raise a child so chill out and keep doing what you are doing mom because mom knows best.

4.) Ms Organized

So, you walked into your friend’s house and you see a messy living room, completely crammed. Toys are scattered everywhere and a huge pile of clothes waiting to be folded by Her Highness. You immediately think that you are looking at the state of the house because you have a different perception of being organized and keeping things in order.

But your friend must be prioritizing her kids today, maybe she took a day off to do some self-care, or maybe she just felt too lazy to do nothing. So is it okay to be imperfect and not be judged? Practically speaking no, because everyone has their own standard of perfectionism and it’s hard to fit into everyone’s theory. So do what you can only do you know your ability and your limits.

5.) Mr. Multitasker

We women are proud to be labeled as busy. We feel happy about it, but this label also brings a lot of pressure with it. You know you are expected to stay strong and active all the time. People tend to see you as a multitasker and on days when you have no energy and need a break. No one really gets it because of your image.

Draw a boundary line and check your mental health here, this is not a test of your potential, but of your ability. You can’t pour from an empty cup, right? Thus, he takes occasional breaks and distributes work to other family members as well.

6.) Ms Fit or Miss-fit?

That’s the biggest challenge, I guess, you can’t have it and you always crave it, you want it but you can’t work to get it. A perfect miss-fit? Again we have a beauty benchmark that says only thin women are beautiful and thin women are stunning. So, to achieve this, most women push themselves so hard that they fast, eat less, exercise and never enjoy the boost that a fitness journey would give them.

Focus on getting fit and eventually, you’ll lose that weight too. You have to accept yourself first and it depends on how you carry yourself when you love yourself, you feel good about yourself and when you feel good about yourself, you look good.

So, now that I have listed some challenges we face as a woman and how we push ourselves to look perfect and do things perfectly, I would like to share something very beautiful with you 🙂 so let me introduce you to something that will change your outlook on life.

The Wabi-Sabi way to embrace imperfections

Wabi-Sabi is the Japanese traditional concept of seeing perfection or beauty in imperfections, the quality we lack as humans. A few months ago, I came across this beautiful concept and loved the fact that such a thing exists, so I thought I’d share it with you.

Simply put, Wabi-Sabi is a centered lifestyle finding beauty in life’s imperfections and peacefully accepting the natural cycle of growth and decay. That is, Imperfection, Transience and Incompleteness.

We seek perfection and have set a benchmark for beauty and flaws. In such a situation it becomes difficult to refer to such teachings, but just imagine the message it holds and its true essence when applied in our daily life, it can work wonders.

How can we apply Wabi-Sabi in our daily life?

So again, I’ll start with a question, how hard is it to accept yourself as imperfect, flawed, in transition, incomplete, and then delve into and understand your reality?

• If we decide that we can see the beauty in everything, we can be grateful even for a morning cup of tea or coffee.
• If we make up our minds and let things take their own course, they can blossom and flourish in the long run.

Finally, I can’t complete my writing without putting a Mental Health angle on my blog. With this idea, I realized that there is a philosophy that suggests feelings of desolation and loneliness. From finding beauty in peace to finding joy in flaws, we learn to accept the flawed beauty of life around us. From ignoring small blemishes and scars, we embrace the wisdom we gain as we age and understand life with more clarity.

So what do you think, is it okay to be imperfect?

Much love and gratitude