Everything you always wanted to know about prostate play but were too afraid to ask
A pretty strong indicator that our once narrow conception of masculinity has come a long way in a short space of time? Men everywhere are a lot more comfortable with anal play, and not only in the giving role but also in the receiving role. And what better proof than the massive increase in popularity of prostate massages?
Having a limited, repressed sexuality is a bit like having a narrow palette. Sure, you can survive on the most common diets, but once you’ve tasted some of the world’s best cuisine, you’ll never want to go back to purely bland food. Well, we’re here to tell you, in the spirit of sexual adventure, that the prostate for most men is an unexplored realm of pure pleasure, whether you’re incorporating prostate massage into your masturbation rituals or incorporating it into your sex life with your partner.
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All that said, though, there are a few things you should know about prostate massage before you experiment, from safety and hygiene basics to toys that take P-spot stimulation to the next level.
Everything you need to know about prostate massage
Nervous; Agitated; Don’t know where to start? Never fear. We’ve broken down the important information to help you get started safely and with maximum enjoyment.
What and where is the prostate?
The prostate is a small, walnut-shaped gland located inside the male rectum. Its bodily role is to produce seminal fluid, which later combines with sperm to create semen, but it also happens to be surrounded by a tuna of nerve endings, which makes it particularly sensitive to manual manipulation.
You can choose to stimulate the prostate directly by inserting a finger, toy or penis into the rectum, or you can deal with it indirectly by massaging the perineum (the area of skin between the anus and the scrotum). If you’re a little apprehensive about the idea of insertion but still want to explore the pleasurable possibilities of the prostate, a perineal massage is a great place to start.
What safety precautions should I take beforehand?
Any time you involve the genitals, and perhaps specifically the anus, it’s a good idea to take some basic safety precautions. Germs and bacteria are a real thing, so before you get into the prostate game, it’s probably a good idea to shower and thoroughly clean your anus using soap and water. A douche or enema is strictly not necessary but never a bad idea.
The next major safety issue is towards the anus itself. Rectal skin is thin and delicate, and very prone to tearing or scratching if you’re not careful. If you plan to use your fingers to massage, carefully trim your nails beforehand or consider wearing a rubber glove. Do not insert a finger with a ring into the rectum, for obvious reasons. If you plan to use a toy, choose something smooth and purpose-built, and make sure it’s clean before you put it on. Also, to keep your space clean and without too many precautions, it’s a good idea to spread out a towel before you start.
How can I massage the prostate?
The key to a successful prostate massage, especially for beginners, is to start small. Using lube and gentle pressure, enter the rectum with either your finger or a clean toy. Your prostate should be no deeper than two to four inches into your rectum, toward the front wall of your pelvis. The move you’re aiming for, once you’re in, is a toe curl, and you’ll know you’re in the right spot when, one, you feel a bump the size of a walnut, and, two, there’s an intense sense of pleasure when you exercise even a mild pressure in the area.
At this point, you should do some experimenting. Change the pressure and movement of your fingers. apply direct and indirect touch. This is a learning experience and not everyone responds to the same kinds of stimulation, so find what works for you.
What is prostate milking?
If you’ve heard anything about prostate stimulation in nature, you’ve probably come across the phrase “prostate milking.” Well, remember the biological role of the prostate: it produces seminal fluid. If you stimulate it in the right way, for the right amount of time, you can actually get it to release this fluid – hence “milking”.
Prostate milking is actually a centuries-old medical practice, first used to treat inflammation of the prostate (also known as prostatitis), but has become more popular recently for the pleasure it can cause. There is even some anecdotal evidence that regular prostate milking may help relieve erectile dysfunction symptoms, but scientific consensus has yet to be reached.
Our favorite prostate massagers
Adam & Eve 3 Point Prostate Massager
Relatively inexpensive, extremely well-made and beginner-friendly, the Adam & Eve 3 Point Prostate Massager was designed with ergonomics in mind, with every curve and protrusion aimed at maximum pleasure. The central shaft is 5.25 inches long, which is enough to stimulate most men’s prostate glands without being too long, and the included “tickle” stimulates the perineum at the same time. Finally, the dual motor design delivers pleasant vibrations to the prostate in 10 possible speed settings.
njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo
No motor, no Bluetooth connection, no thrills and frills. So what exactly are you paying for with the njoy Pure Wand? Simple: incredible build quality and best-in-class design. This not only works as a back massager (and not in the i winkreasonable way to say no, either!), its curved design and dual balls of different sizes make it an incredibly pleasurable way to stimulate your prostate. It is also made of high-quality, solid stainless steel, which is not only extremely hygienic but also temperature-responsive for added enjoyment.
Lelo Hugo 2
Lelo is among today’s most renowned and award-winning sex toy manufacturers, elevating the industry with their sleek, stylish designs and premium materials, and the Hugo 2, successor to one of the most popular and award-winning prostate massagers ever made, more than delivers on the brand’s promises. It’s easy to clean and easy to recharge, with two powerful motors that deliver up to 8 pre-programmed vibration settings and a second, smaller prong that targets perineal pleasure while the main bulb targets the P-spot.
ANEROS Helix Trident
We love the simplicity and high functionality of the ANEROS Helix Trident, as well as its compact and easy-to-store design. The angle of the head has been optimized to reach the prostate, while the rigid construction offers maximum stimulation of up to four erogenous zones simultaneously. Because this game is on the smaller end, however, it’s more suitable for beginners to playing protectors, while veterans may prefer a larger alternative.
LOVENSE Edge 2 prostate massager
Patron play doesn’t have to be a solo affair and the LOVENSE Edge 2 is proof. As a standalone toy, its food-grade silicone construction and IPX7 water resistance make it safe and comfortable, and its dual-motor design offers amazing stimulation, but this device really shines when you connect it to a smartphone. Through the smartphone app’s remote control, which can be used anywhere there’s an internet connection, you can unlock more than 10,000 vibration patterns, not to mention some incredibly fun games for couples that will help you feel close even when you’re physically apart .
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