Embrace your sexuality

Sexuality. Did you get a lump in your throat when you read that? Butterflies in your stomach? Or some other uncomfortable, nervous feeling? You are not alone. Sex positivity is on the rise. And so many of us desperately want to be a part of it, but we can’t because we struggle to embrace our sexuality. Does this sound like you? Do not worry. We understand. And we got you. Here are three ways you can start embracing your sexuality.

Are you embracing your sexuality? How?

Ladies, let’s be honest. Sex is a part of our lives – most of us wouldn’t be here without it. But that doesn’t always mean we’re comfortable with it or ourselves and it. And if that fret comes from outside forces, or from within, it doesn’t have to stay that way.

Embracing your sexuality isn’t just about who you strip. It is also about self-confidence, self-awareness and self-love. And we all want to embrace who you are on the hormone. Because as Mama Rou always says, if you can’t love yourself, how the hell are you going to love someone else?

So here are three ways you can know and love yourself and your sexuality…

1. Know your body

Sexuality is so much about how you feel in your body. But how can you connect with your body if you don’t know it?

Imagine suddenly trying to make a deep connection with someone you’ve never laid eyes on, written a letter to, or talked to on the phone. This is what it can feel like when we try to embrace sexuality without knowing our bodies first. So, how do you get to know your body? And what does that even mean?

Knowing your body means knowing first of all what it looks like. So if your Gynecologist knows your parts better than you do, that may be part of the problem. Take a long look at your entire body. Yes, even the places you might need a mirror to see properly. And remember that no matter what your body looks like or what it can and can’t do, it’s part of you. You are unbelievable. So is your body.

Next, you’ll want to make mental notes of what feels good in your body. It can start with what foods you like, what material or clothes are most comfortable for you, and eventually progress to what kinds of touches, sexual or otherwise, feel good. When you find a winner – something your body Really enjoys — take a moment to sit with that feeling and let it wash over you.

2. Wear what you like

We all love a good trend, but the best looks are the ones that make you feel confident and beautiful. We’re not saying you should go out and buy a whole new wardrobe. You probably have a few items in your closet that make you feel like a million bucks every time you wear them. Try to figure out exactly what you like about these pieces. Is it the color? The way that suits your body? Does it have a print you love? Keep this information in mind the next time you go shopping.

Remember that sometimes it’s not always about the clothes you can see. Correctly. We’re talking about underwear.

Maybe you have a favorite bra that makes you feel extra flirty. Or maybe you have a favorite pair of Holy Grail underwear that is both comfortable and cute. Put them on. Buy multiple pairs. Get one in every color. But remember to do the responsible thing and save about two months worth of salary before you hit the store, because that’s how expensive pants are these days, right, gang?

While it may seem vain to some, you can’t deny that when you look good, you feel good. And when you feel good, embracing your sexuality is much easier.

3. Go to therapy

On a more serious note, therapy can be a game-changer for people who want to embrace their sexuality. ONE licensed therapist can help you unpack your subconscious beliefs and biases and give you strategies to help you manage and overcome harmful habits and ways of thinking.

Thanks to technology, you may not even have to leave your home to speak with a therapist. You can get advice via video call, online chat or simple phone call. With the right therapist and a little courage, you could change your life.