Note: This is a look Bipolar rules! This rule is part of the unity of the rules of emotions. It’s a plan. This is not the final version.
One of the things you can do when you are depressed (or even not depression) is offending yourself. The insults I have said to myself were incredibly cruel and things I would never say to anyone else. Although you may know that it is the depression it speaks, and although you may know it is negative and harmful, sometimes people simply cannot stop offending themselves. Worse still, insulting yourself can lead to more insults, such as, “I am such an idiot to offend myself, I know I should not do that.” It’s a vicious circle.
While people often do not realize it, attacking yourself is quite normal. This is more common for people with certain characteristics, such as low self -esteem. However, everyone does it from time to time.
For example, you have made a mistake, maybe in front of someone you really respect and said to yourself, “I can’t believe I said that. I’m so stupid”?
Or you may have been rejected for two dates in a week and thought of yourself, “I’m so ugly. No one will ever want me.”?
You could be in any case and not Infringe yourself, but if you had a day down or maybe you felt a little sensitive, offending yourself it may be how you reacted.
This type of thinking process can happen for many reasons. You may be depressed and feel very negative. You may have low self -esteem and really believe the insults you are pushing. You may be around people who offend you, so insults feel normal. Or you could have a number of other reasons. Many things lead to attacking himself.
I have offended myself as part of myself hitting myself because of depression in my brain – a very bad habit to be sure. The stroke of yourself usually consists of a larger cycle of many insults, some for no reason and some for a perceived reason. To beat yourself is to offend yourself again and again.
And perhaps what is worse, offending yourself often leads to negative judgments of yourself and your life.
For example,
- “You’re so dumb bitch. There’s no doubt that no one likes you.”
- “This mistake proves that you are a fuck-up. You do not deserve to live.”
- “You’re so ugly. Just go to die, stupid, oily.
Does it sound harsh? Well, that’s the point. The voice of depression – the voice that constantly offends you – is a very tough mistress. And because depression lives in your brain, it knows what will hurt you the most. It uses this information to form the worst insults. That is why the attack of yourself feels so painful – it is both personal and effective.
If you go through this kind of self-unstable spiral, they are probably very unhappy, having difficulty dealing with others and being quiet and uncertain about yourself. The type of serious, devastating attacks thrown by depression affects a person at each level.
Fight against insults
The fight against the insults that your brain throws to you comes down to two things: the first of which is self-speech.
Try to do these things when you offend yourself:
- It causes insults and negative judgments. Do it loud. Write them and see them. Take a step back and logically evaluate how realistic it is. The odds are very good, you blow things out of ratio and jump into conclusions that are not justified. Seeing them write and use logic can show you this.
- Remind yourself that she is talking about depression. Your depression hates you. Depression probably wants to die. This voice is not your friend and does not tell you the truth.
- Refresh the insults. Infestations are usually unrealistic views on what’s going on. For example, if you make a mistake at work, you can offend yourself for it, but you never think 99% of the time you don’t make mistakes. Instead of offending yourself for the way you portions in front of a superior, you could say to yourself, “I was wrong today, I won’t make this mistake tomorrow.” This allows you to recognize what really happened, but not use it as an insult.
- Act like your own friend. Remind yourself that you will never talk to another person the way you speak to yourself. It is not reasonable to apply a double standard to yourself. If you won’t tell another person you are interested in, you should not say it to yourself.
- Do not accept verbal abuse. Infestations such as the species I mentioned above are a form of verbal abuse. Sure, if you threw them into someone else, this will be clear. Even if you feel that you cannot be your own friend, you can still remember that as a human being, you deserve to be treated with respect rather than verbal abuse.
- Give yourself congratulations. Instead of focusing on your perceived errors, or even in addition to focusing on your perceived errors if you cannot stop, also force yourself to recognize all the things you do right and all things that are good for yourself. For example, you might have said something embarrassed on a date, but maybe then you got it with humor. This is great, and it is okay to focus on the good part and not the evil. It’s okay to say, “I have a good sense of humor.”
The second part of the fight against insults in your brain gets professional help. Part of this help can be psychotherapy. Sometimes our internal insults are so rooted that we need a professional to help us to be jealous of them from our souls. Some of us offend ourselves for some things from childhood. It is absurd to believe that you can simply face these insults. You need a professional to teach you new techniques and help you practice them again and again until they become habits. They can also help you address the underlying issues that feed these insults. Do not be ashamed to address these professionals whose job is to help you with such difficulties.
Professional assistance can also include medical assistance. The new changes in medication or drugs may be justified in addressing the issues that govern all these insults. As I said, these attacks may be driven by depression (or another mental illness) and may not be until you get this depression (or other disease) under control that they have destroyed. That is why it is important to be in advance with all medical professionals about what causes your anxiety – even if you think they are not especially in their field. You will be amazed at the professionals of all strips to hear and what treatment they can deal with.
And, of course, many people need both medical help and psychotherapy to calm their offensive inner monologue. If that is you, it’s okay. I was there, and so I have many others. It was once that one day, or even an hour, I will not pass without offending the way I see and while I still have problems in this area, it is nowhere as bad as it was. Now I can look in the mirror and see something different from the full ugliness they look back on me.
I know how exhaustive he is trying to fight a barrier of attack, especially when it is almost stable. This is also exhaustive is the constant victim of abuse. If you can neutralize the dissertation of the insults, even a little, you can get a piece of the brain back with which to do other things. It is worth making the attempt not to let the insults be the loudest noise on your head.
