I created a birth preparation application to help women have a positive birth and here is why …
The short story …
As a 17 -year -old midwife, I felt lost and frustrated by the broken maternity system. I felt that I was serving in women a huge nonstop and I wanted to help them regain their right to a positive birth. On a personal level, in the Waiting Clots, I lived deeply through reflection on all my experiences and achievements to date. I had a strong awareness of what it means to be a woman, since he never really considered it before.
I was born four times and I am terrible and I want all women to have a birth for their future self to be able to look back with a peaceful and happy heart.
The long history …
Twenty years ago, I was preparing for my midwifery degree interview. I still remember the three most important points I wanted to mention.
First of all, midwife means »with a woman‘. Simple and obvious, but he came to the point of being because I wanted to pursue a career in obstetrics.
Second, a midwife is and “autonomous professional ,,, It means that a midwife can provide care to a woman independently and is able to use her professional knowledge and judgment to make decisions with the woman.
The theme Buzz at that time, and the third thing I wanted to mention was the Royal College of Midwives’ Continuing Campaign – ‘The Great Push for Normal Birth’. By discussing this would give me the opportunity to show my commitment to support women’s care.
Fast forward twenty years and the role of the midwife has changed dramatically. The years have passed and I went with the flow, shifting and shaping myself to accept changes, while at the same time trying to be true to myself, my values and my professional integrity – though at times compression. In the end, I no longer felt “with the woman”. Instead, I felt dedicated and committed to my computer and intervention. I had developed an unhealthy fetish to hit boxes.
Autonomic The professional turned to automatic Practitioner – Robot like. As a midwife in the postnatal chamber, where I spent the last five years of my career, I felt completely disgusting to think of myself and providing personalized care.
The Big Push for Normal Birth campaign was dismantled by RCM in 2017 as it gave women a negative message. The midwives were encouraged to no longer refer to any birth as “normal”. What became “normal” for me, however, received such a tradition from my colleagues in the delivery suite:
‘This is Sally,
She is her first baby.
Ended up having an emergency section C,
After a failed forceps in the theater,
After a failed induction at 38 weeks,
for a big baby.
Yes the baby is expected to be over 90th percentage,
But Wee Dote was in the 50th percentage.
Mom is so happy to be over,
And baby is safe and well,
God loves her,
All this started four days ago,
Can’t keep her eyes open,
The baby is a little upset,
Wee’s head looks like it can be painful,
He is not terribly willing to mourn …
Could probably do with a supplement. ”
Mom is so happy she is everywhere-and the baby is here safe and well.
This feeling just beats so true and so often.
Yes, it was sad that the woman was unnecessarily caused, but at least the baby is good, and no harm, right?
No questions about bad decisions will be asked. There will be no learning outcomes and there will be no professional reflection with recommendations on how things can improve, because everything is well.
Daily, midwives are experiencing fleeting pain and sadness, a flickering quiet wondering how things got the way they have, a feeling that feels things is simply not right and a fear that things will never change. But then, time to move on to the next work of the day, there is no time for emotion.
Mom is exhausted, very busy with a newborn baby and extremely grateful and besotted. As she holds her healthy baby in her arms, she soon forgets that she even had a birth plan. AreWhy, ”What if it is andhow They dissolve quietly, we never talked loud, it never sounds, because the baby is here, and everything is fine, and everyone is grateful.
I was there and I know it would feel wrong to complain – your life gave you the healthy baby she always wanted. No matter what you had to go through to finally keep them in your arms, right? No harm, right?
Wrong.
The waterfall of the recently born events mother Beneficiaries can hit her in a frenzy after childbirth. There are obstacles now that otherwise they were not there, from connection difficulties, to abandon a dream of breastfeeding due to exhaustion, in the risk of developing postnatal depression, in birth trauma, PTSD or even difficulties with relationships.
My faith in my profession began to diminish and I began to wonder if I did more harm than good in the practice I felt obliged to deliver. I really liked my job and I was good at it, but for years, I felt so torn and confused about the profession of obstetrics, as in the end, obstetrics should be the best job in the world.
I am grateful to have the privilege of experiencing obstetrics as it may be, where women work and give birth to a truly relaxed environment. For three years, I worked in an autonomous midwife unit (one of only three in Northern Ireland at that time and now unfortunately ended for births due to lack of resources).
