Are you in an unhealthy relationship? What are the signs of an unhealthy relationship? Are you dealing with relationship stress alone? Relationships are a part of our lives, but what happens when we depend too much on someone and that dependence turns out to be unhealthy for our mental health?
In this blog, I will share some signs that can help you determine the stage of your relationship and allow you to take the necessary steps at the right time.
5 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
I have always been the giver in me relationship. I gave too much of what I had to myself and when things ended, I felt empty and it created a void inside me. I felt suffocated almost every day.
What I thought was healthy, turned out to be completely unhealthy for me after 8 years. WHY; Because I never paid attention to the patterns I was creating in my relationship and now when I pause and think, I clearly understand where I went wrong.
Relationships always suffer because of selfishness, ignorance, bad communicationand posture problems. During the period, you realize that you are banging your head against a thick wall, ultimately injuring yourself.
#1. You are always the giver
One of the toxic signs of an unhealthy relationship is because you are madly in love and you are so blinded by this beautiful image of a happy relationship that you are ready to do anything to keep your bond stronger.
It is said that love should be unconditional, but we fail to emphasize one fact here, that it should be unconditional from both ends, only then true love blossoms.
If you are the giver in your relationship, after some time you reach a level where you are no longer allowed to give anything, you feel so empty but after you have established yourself as the giver, you fail to live up to expectations and that is where the problem begins.
Solution: Balance your transaction, yes love is an emotional transaction, make sure it doesn’t turn out to be too taxing on your mental health.
#2. You prioritize their happiness over your own
I won’t call it the biggest mistake though, but we often find ourselves putting our lover/husband/bf/gf first, don’t we? Maybe we are set up like this, him first, family first, home first, children first, and what about us?
What about my mental health, if I’m not healthy if all the chaos in my life is creating a traffic jam inside my little head, how will I be able to move this vehicle called life without having a stroke?
Solution: Prioritize your mental health, stop and think, assess your height. Make the necessary changes, change a few things based on what bothers you.
#3. You go out of your way to make things happen
One of the major toxic signs of an unhealthy relationship, here it is – you will do anything to cover up, keep your promises, maintain that perfect image, push yourself, and do anything to make him/her happy.
What will all this leave you if they do not return you with the same love, compassion and care? You will feel unhappy after a certain period of time, you will even start doubting your own efforts.
Solution: I feel like the balance of being completely imperfect can help in a situation like this, allowing yourself to be a person who can make mistakes, who can fail, but learn from it, could help.
#4. You are always available
Emotionally, physically, mentally and financially. You knew that setting boundaries are they considered very healthy in each relationship? Now, you might be thinking, come on, what boundaries do I have with my life partner?
Can you pour from an empty cup? Do you know what the future holds for you? Are you ready for life? Keep a part of yourself to yourself, repeat this while you read it.
Solution: Protect your peace. Be there, fulfill all your duties, try to balance but also go out, take timely breaks, let things take their course.
#5. you never say no
Another of the main signs of an unhealthy relationship is that just because you want him to be happy, you fail to say no, you fail to say NO to things you don’t like doing or don’t like at all. This becomes a habit in the long run and now your partner is used to this pattern you have created.
Now, if you try to break it, you are bad, act. Your partner never takes a NO under any circumstances and in the process, you’re letting yourself down a lot.
Solution: Setting boundaries and prioritizing help, but if done right from the start.
In the end, I would say that every relationship is an act of adjustments, shifts, changes, balance and understanding. But the most important point to be noted here is that all these should be equal contribution from the person involved as well.
When a partner forgets their role-playing, the drama of a lifetime begins to lose its essence. So those were some ssigns of an unhealthy relationship that could cause a lot of mental stress if not taken care of.
Life is meant to be lived and you should be in full control of your life. Think and evaluate what works and if some things don’t work, learn how to make things work differently. Continue. Get up!
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This blog post is part of the ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ blog challenge hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla.
