Looking for a new way to enrich your sex life? Pick up the phone.
Phone sex isn’t just relegated to old movies or long-distance relationships, it’s also a great way to try out role-play, explore your aural sensuality, and add suspense and excitement to your relationships. Experimentation helps you learn more about yourself and they strengthen the mind-body connection.
Read on to learn more about phone sex, how it can benefit your sex life, and some lip service tips.
What exactly is phone sex?
Phone sex is a general term that refers to the act of engaging in, discussing, or listening to sexual fantasies or acts aurally. In today’s smartphone age, you can also include video calls, as well as text or voice messages (also known as sexting) under the umbrella of phone sex.
Essentially, phone sex is when you share anything erotic over the phone, and just like face-to-face sex, it doesn’t necessarily have to result in an orgasm. Often, phone sex involves only one person physically enjoying themselves while the other creates connection and mental stimulation. Engaging in this type of partner play can be highly erotic and validating even if there is no physical climax.
Benefits of phone sex
It adds suspense and excitement to a relationship
Whether you’ve just started dating or are looking for ways to spice things up in a long-term relationship, phone sex can be a great way to build suspense and add excitement.
For example, if you have a date later in the day, or if you and your partner are busy with work all day and can’t see each other until the evening, start building tension by teasing your partner with sexy calls, messages or photos throughout the day. It will keep you on their mind and build excitement for both of you until the physical meeting.
You can also schedule a phone sex date and use these methods to add intensity. Mystery, tension and suspense add to the eroticism, because sexuality is all about the imagination.
It keeps the spark alive for long distance relationships
For people in long-distance relationships, it can be difficult to maintain a sense of physical intimacy. Getting creative with phone sex and talking about what you want to do when you finally see each other can keep you on each other’s minds and keep the spark alive.
A way to try roleplaying
Roleplaying can be intimidating, especially if you’ve never done it before. Phone sex is a great way to try things you’re not as comfortable doing in person, at least not yet, and act as a gateway to role-play without getting physically dressed.
Get creative over the phone with a sexy “dominant” voice or a high schoolgirl tone. You can also keep the natural seductiveness of your voice, make up a sexy scenario or fantasy and let your imagination do the talking.
Tips for the hottest phone sex
Scheduling sexy time
Some people may think that marking “phone sex” in their diary is the opposite of sexy, but it can be a good way to start.
While it’s great to be spontaneous and flow naturally, it can be hard to know if the other person is in the mood too. It’s hard to get signals and environment from the phone since you can’t see the person. Plus, planning it in advance adds anticipation to the mix, increasing the excitement leading up to the call.
Incorporate some inspiration
Find inspiration by scrolling through some porn or re-watch your partner’s sexy photos and videos if you have one. Describing a scenario that you can already imagine in your head is much easier than trying to make something up on the spot. Another option is to read romance literature and branch out into one of the scenarios that challenge you.
Don’t be afraid to use toys
Games are not only a good way to aid your physical pleasure during phone sex, but also a great way to spark a sexy conversation. For example, if you use a vibrator, tell your partner exactly how you use it, where you put it, and how it feels.
You can also have your partner tell you exactly what to do with the toy (or vice versa) so there’s an extra layer of bonding and BDSM play.
Have fun!
Don’t take yourself too seriously, relax and have fun. Since phone sex is mostly an auditory form, it opens up unique avenues of psychic exploration and stimulates the most powerful love tool: the imagination.
Phone sex, like our imaginations, can get a little weird, so laugh it off if things get awkward! Laughing together helps with bonding and trust, so even if your partner says something that makes you laugh or thinks you’re being silly, it’s still a good time.
