In my seventeenth book, 12 rules for good menWe analyzed in detail twelve specific things that I felt were important to men to become the healthier, more mature, themselves:
- Join a group of men.
- Release from the man’s box.
- Accept the gift of evil.
- Embrace the billion history of abuse.
- Recognize your anger and fear of women.
- Learn the secrets of true lasting love.
- They are subjected to substantial transit ceremonies from youth to adulthood and adulthood to the elderly or hyper-aliography.
- Celebrate the spirit of your true warrior and find out why male Duel and female duet.
- Understand and heal your adverse childhood experiences and male adhesion disorders.
- Heal your father injury and become the father you had to be.
- Treat the irritable male syndrome and depression of the male type.
- Find your mission in life and make your role to save humanity.
Since I worked in the field of men’s therapy and health for more than fifty years, these twelve “rules” were my answer to the many questions I heard from thousands of men asking,
- What are the most important things to do to save my marriage?
- Which job is most important and how can I make a living to do whatever I feel called to do?
- What does it really mean to heal my own wounds and be a good person in today’s world?
- How do I help my children, grandchildren and future generations survive and thrive in a world that turned upside down?
Get to know Andrew Cohn: A man a mission with invitation to you
Today I would like to introduce you to a kinship, Andrew Cohn. Andrew is a trusted leadership consultant, coach, facilitator, consultant and speaker. He began his career as a lawyer in Los Angeles before changing his focus on the development of leadership and organization in 1997. Recently I had the pleasure of interviewing Andrew, discussing his history and current work with men. You can watch the full interview here.
Andrew offers a unique opportunity for men on April 25-27, in 2025, which I highly recommend.
“In this powerful and refreshing retreat for men in beautiful Santa Fe, we will make a deep dive on the challenges and pleasures of being a man in 2025 and beyond,” says Andrew, “what we fear and what makes us feel uncomfortable and prove our sanctuary.
If you read my recent article, “because the future of mankind may depend on our connection to our 56 million years old”, you know about the work of Kelly Wendorf and her work on Equus. Kelly and Andrew are partners and men’s retreat will take place at Buffalo Spirit Ranch, the excellent 11 acres of Equus Experimental discovery and campus.
Says Andrew,
“If you or a person you know may be interested in you, please contact me as soon as possible to discuss. The team will be limited to 15 men and is expected to be filled quickly.
These are difficult times for everyone and men are no exception. In a recent article, “in search of mature masculinity in a world of injured bombs”, I described three current views of masculinity and male age we see in government, meeting rooms and bedrooms.
1. THE HIGH CULTURE
As described by Jungian Psychoanalyst and Psychologist Robert Moore and mythologist and adviser Douglas Gillette, in their book, King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Discovering the Archetypes of the Mature Arsenic,
“The high -profile tyrannos is an archetype of ‘boy psychology.’
Continue to say,
“The high -end Tyrannus must know that it is not the center of the universe and that the universe does not exist to fulfill every need, or better to put its unlimited needs, its intentions for the deity.”
Do you recognize this character to anyone you know or any males you hear?
2. The weak prince.
The second archetype of boys’ psychology described by Moore and Gillette is the weak prince.
“The boy (and later the man) possessed by the weak prince must be coddled, who dictates to those around him from his silent or whining and protests weakness,” says Moore and Gillette.
As adults, those who hold the weak archetypal prince often become “sir children”. Dr. Robert Glover, author of the book NO MORE NIKO says,
“A good guy is a man who believes he is not okay, as he is, because of both social and family preparation, the good guy is convinced that he must become what he thinks others want to be to like, love and get his needs.
Glover continues to say,
“This non -authentic and chameleon approach to life is causing beautiful guys to feel frustrated, confusing and unhappy.
Do you recognize this character to anyone you know or any males you hear?
None of these kinds of boys are disguised as men are likely to help in our personal, professional or community life. We need men who are strong and cared for, who have undergone guidance and have undergone healthy transit ceremonies.
Historian, Ruth Ben-Giat, describes political leaders led by boys’ psychology in her book, Strongmen: Mussolini in the present.
“For ours is the time of authoritarian leaders: self -proclaimed saviors of the nation who avoid responsibility, while robbing the people of truth, treasure and protection of democracy, use masculinity as a symbol of power and a political weapon.
3. The mature whole man.
I turned 81 years old in December 2024. The whole MAN program: Rejuvenating your body, mind and spirit after 40.
I started the book with an excerpt from the philosopher Paul Tillich I met when I was in college at UC Santa Barbara between 1964. He said,
“Every serious thinker must ask and answer these three fundamental questions:
- What about us? With men? Women? Society; What is the nature of our alienation? Our difficulty?
- How would we be if we were whole? Healed? Did it take place? If our feature was fulfilled?
- How do we move from our condition for breakage to wholeness? What are the means of treatment? ”
In the book, I described the program I found useful in my life and that I suggest my family, friends and customers. I believe that people now need, more than ever, they are mature whole men and mature entire women.
Moore and Gillette describe four mature masculine archetypes – the king, the warrior, the magician and the lover. The mature man incorporates all four of these primary actions.
“The king’s energy is primarily to all men,” says Moore and Gillette. “Two functions of King Energy make it possible to move from boys’ psychology to human psychology. The first of these is the order, the second provides fertility and blessing.”
They continue to say: “The king is the central archetype. The good king is in the center of the world, sits on his throne on the central mountain or on Primeval hill, as the ancient Egyptians called it.”
(Remember – don’t confuse the king’s archetype with cosmic kings who were often high chair tyrants, rather than mature male leaders.
Moore and Gillette offer the example of Sioux Medicine Man Black Elk described by John Neihardt in his book, Black Elk is talking. Black Elk talks about the world as a big “wreath” divided by two trails, a “red path” and a “black path” intersecting. Where they intersect is the central mountain of the world. It is on this mountain that the Great Father God – the King of Energy – provokes and gives Black Elk a series of revelations about his people.
The mature man leader reduces and receives guidance from “Great Father God” and gives his people his rules and laws to follow for the good of the people and the communities of life that all people depend on.
“Royal energy brings abundance and blessings to his people,” says Moore and Gillette. “In Cooperation with his order function, the second vital good of the king’s energy is fertility and blessing. ”
The mature male leader sees the good in every creation and supports the creation of a new life for both humans and the kingdoms of animals and plants and recognizes that all life is linked.
The mature male leader achieves this, is an example in his life for what he gives to others. Like all people, it makes mistakes, but it can recognize them when they happen and do not blame others. He is not a god separate from his people, but a man who paints in the gifts of the gods and archetypal legacies from millions of years of human history.
Do you recognize this mature whole man’s character to anyone you know or about the males you hear?
Our organization, The moon for humanity and humanityIt brings together organisms dedicated to teaching, training and guidance of boys and men to achieve the properties of mature masculinity.
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