In December, we started covering an interesting Finnish study on women’s orgasms. A team of researchers wrote the results of five different sexual research conducted over four decades starting in the early 1970s. Over 10,000 men and women participated and researchers focused on women’s orgasms. They published their findings in October 2016 in the SOCIOABACTIVE NEUROSCIENCE AND PSYCHOLOGY magazine.
In our previous blog post, we shared some of the results: the first orgasms of women, how they felt about orgasms and what they needed to get there. We will continue the debate today, underlining the role of partners, communication and sexual self -esteem. We will also look at some of the factors that inhibit orgasm and talk about the frequency of multiple orgasms.
(Note: All surveys did not ask the same questions. In some cases the results are only one survey.)
Partners Role: Oral Sex and Manual Stimulation
Many women reach orgasms when their partner performs oral sex or manual stimulation (touching the genitals). Although all women do not escalate in this way, the researchers have found that women who receive these types of sexual arousal approach orgasm more often. This does not mean that vaginal orgasms through sexual intercourse are less important or pleasant. It is more reminder that there are many paths to orgasm.
Oral sex was especially useful for women with low sexual desire, as well as for women who had trouble talking about sex with their partner, the writers explained. However, many women were reluctant to ask their partner for oral sex.
Good communication between the partners was just as important to women’s orgasms with sexual technique, investigations revealed. While skillful partners were useful, discussing and finding ways to bring mutual pleasure was also important.
Sexual self -esteem
Women with high sexual self -esteem, who felt confident in their bedroom skills, tend to have orgasms more frequently. In fact, a study found that only 10% of women who did not think they were good in bed had an orgasm in their last contact. Taking, there were times when good communication with a partner was offset for low sexual self -esteem, which helped with orgasms.
Accepting one’s self and body, as well as being able to focus solely on sexual activities, without distractions, also increased the chances of orgasm.
Factors that could prevent orgasm
What makes women less likely to get to orgasm? Stress, fatigue and problems were one of the most commonly mentioned reasons. Partners who were less specialized and those who went “very quickly” could also intervene.
Other factors included the following:
- Feeling sex was not important for the relationship
- Lack of physical intimacy in the relationship
- Lack of sexual desire
- Lack of oral sex or manual stimulation
- Vaginal dryness, painful contact
- Early orgasm of partner, short duration of intercourse
- Unhappy relationship
- Feeling unwanted
- Partner’s erection problems
- Disease
Multiple orgasms
Multiple orgasms are more common for women than for men. In a survey, 12% of women said they had two or more orgasms the last time they had intercourse. In another, women who had multiple orgasms said they often used sex toys and that their sexual activities lasted over an hour.
“In many ways, multifaceted women have had strong sexual interests and were sexually very active,” the authors wrote.
Age
Researchers noticed that women under 35 were more likely to reach orgasm over time, especially since the 2000s. This finding was interesting, as the internet and other media offer women a lot of information about orgasms and pleasant sex. However, stress, lively lives and less privacy can be involved, they said.
The route
Above these two blog posts, we have seen that many factors affect women’s orgasms – internal and external, physical and emotional. Still, the climax of a woman is extremely personal and what works for one woman will not necessarily work for another. And some factors, such as resolving painful contact, improving communication between partners and accepting the body, may require additional help by a doctor or for a sexual therapist.
If you or your partner have concerns about orgasms, we encourage you to see the following links and, where appropriate, talk to the healthcare provider.
Orgasm Problems: What can women do?
Well -meaning sexism and female orgasm
What happens during orgasm?
Anatomy could be a key to orgasm
Female ejaculation
After Orgasm: A series of reactions
Resources
Socio -economic neuroscience and psychology
Kontula, Osmo Phd and Anneli Miettinen MSSC
‘The decisive factors of female sexual orgasms’
(Full text. Posted: October 25, 2016)
