Will you surprise you to find out that about 10% to 40% of women have trouble getting orgasm? And that some women never had an orgasm?
The clinical term is Anorgasmia and bothers many women. It may also be his associates, and who may believe that their bedroom skills are not up to exchange.
We often think of orgasm as a goal of sexual journey. Many of what we see in popular culture – television, movies, magazines – can surely make us think that is so. Often, people feel that if there is no eruption of land, then something is wrong.
But this is real life and female orgasm is complicated. A woman needs her brain and her body to work together to achieve orgasm. Fortunately, there are steps that women can start to have orgasms or make their orgasms even more satisfactory.
Today, let’s look at some of the causes of Anorgasmia in women and ways to work with them.
Stress
Stress has many aspects, both small and large. Will you complete this work task on time? Do you have to worry about this noise in the car? Will children walk and catch your partner in practice? Any of these questions can distract you from the enjoyment of intimacy.
Try this: Do something alone or with your partner, to fly and keep the bay concerns. You can take a walk, take a bath or do some yoga. During sex, focus on here and now. Focus on the senses – touch, breaths, sounds – and stay in the present.
Worry
As mentioned above, a woman’s brain and body have to work together to have an orgasm. Stress can work against the process and sometimes seeing a mental health professional is the best path.
A woman may feel anxious about sexual encounter. It can worry about the pleasure of a new partner. If he has experienced sexual pain before, he can tense on the thought of penetration. Or, he may feel that he is expected to do something for which he is not ready. A sex therapist can suggest relaxation and communication strategies.
Relationship issues are another common source of anxiety. Infidelity, other violations of confidence, battle or boredom can all prevent relaxation and orgasm. A therapist can teach pairs of communication ways for their needs and negotiate important aspects of their relationship.
Stress can also go deeper. Women who have suffered sexual abuse or attack may be afraid of sex or trust no partner in sexual state. A psychologist can help women to deal with the past abuse.
Try this: Talk to your doctor about a referral to a mental health professional. Do not hesitate to ask for help if you need it.
Beliefs about sex
Sex is a complex, personal issue. Some women grow up in environments where they are accepted and discussed openly. Others rise to believe that sex is dirty, sinful or something that needs to be tolerated, he does not enjoy.
Try this: If you feel that your beliefs about sex are holding back, take some time to reassess your views. It may be useful to talk to your partner, a reliable friend or relative, a consultant or a member of the clergyman to help you work through your hesitation.
Inexperience
Unfortunately, we did not give birth to knowing how our body works, especially when it comes to sex. If you didn’t have much sexual experience – or a lot of sexual education – you might not know what you find good.
Try this: Get to know your anatomy. Ask your doctor’s questions, read a good book on sex health, or try watching a women’s health training. Keep a mirror in your genitals to see how your particular body is designed.
You can also try masturbation. Solo Sex is one of the easiest ways to find out what brings you pleasure. Find a private place where you can relax and feel safe. Give yourself enough time to explore your body. If something feels good, see where it drives you. Do not hesitate to let your mind wander as well. You may also consider testing sex games, such as vibrators, during this private period.
Health conditions
You may have trouble getting to orgasm if you have a health condition such as diabetes or if you have gynecological surgery. Anorgasmia can also be side effects of antidepressants and other drugs.
Try this: Talk to your doctor. Yes, it can be an embarrassing discussion about sex, especially orgasm, with a medical professional. But in this way it can help you restore your sex life. Just take a deep breath and talk. Or, if you are particularly nervous, try to have the discussion in advance.
Your body
For many women, the clitoris is the Center for Orgasm. It contains over 7,000 nerve endings that, when stimulated, bring most women great pleasure. However, research has found that the size and position of a woman’s clitoris can affect orgasm. If the clitoris is too small, there may not be enough surface to stimulate. If it is far from the vagina, it may not be stimulated enough during intercourse.
Try this: You and your partner may need to try different positions or activities to help you reach orgasm. Most women do not peak during intercourse. But they do it when their partner rubs their clit or stimulates it orally.
It is also important to be patient. For some women, it takes more time to get to orgasm and that’s ok. If your partner peaks in front of you and want to continue sex, say so. And remember, most partners do not reach orgasm at the same time.
Communication
As we have seen, women’s orgasms are influenced by various factors that may overlap. Contact – with a partner, friend, doctor or other professional, is the key to maintaining the body and brain that work together for sexual satisfaction.
Resources
The magazine of sexual medicine
Rowland, David L., Phd and Tiffany N. Kolba, PhD
‘Understanding orgasmic difficulty in women’
(Full text. Published online: June 23, 2016)
http://www.jsm.jsexmed.org/article/s1743-6095(16) 30259-4/Fulltext
Mayo Clinic
“Anorgasmia to women”
(February 14, 2015)
Netdoctor.co.uk
“Do you have problems with orgasm? A guide to women »
(29 November 2013)
NHS options
“What can cause orgasm problems to women?”
(Last Review: December 17, 2014)
Psychology today
“Aid! I can’t have an orgasm »
(November 19, 2011)
Sexhealthmatters.org
“The size and location of the clitoris can affect orgasm”
(November 12, 2014)
Canada’s obstetrician and gynecologists company
‘Women’s orgasms: myths and events’
