Sex can be especially exciting when trying to start a family. You and your partner can enjoy your time together, commit as a couple and smile to yourself, wonder if the latest meeting of your bedroom will lead to a new family member nine months from now.
But if you and your partner do not face this tale, sex and relationships can become more difficult. Some couples are dragged during infertility treatments, but it is important to remain connected – including sexual.
Let’s look at some of the challenges facing couples:
She has sex in a program. Many couples feel like must They have sex at a certain time, depending on what the calendar or clock for ovulation cycles say. Regardless of how they feel, they have to benefit from a window of opportunity. However, the real world does not always work that day. Your fertility specialist can say that October 6th is the perfect time to make a baby, but when it arrives that day, one of you may have had a stressful day at work. Or you may be away in business. Or your partner may have the flu. If sex doesn’t work, you may feel guilty to miss the opportunity.
Try this: Make sure you still have sex for connection and fun. It can help design date nights, explore fantasies, and maintain this romantic sparks. Remember that there are many good reasons to have sex. The pregnant woman is only one.
Facing frustration. If you and your partner are trying to arrest for a long time, it is natural to feel sad and frustrated if it does not happen. Depression and anxiety can affect all aspects of a relationship, including sexuality.
Try this: Don’t keep your feelings bottled in. If you feel down, be open with your partner. Don’t blame each other for your situation. You just know you are in it together. Think about joining a support team in your community where you can talk to other couples facing infertility. You may also see a consultant or therapist – only or as a couple – to maintain your relationship strong. It’s okay to ask for help.
The treatment of “know-it-alls” and people. Friends and family, no matter how well -meaning, can ask invasive questions. (When will you have a baby? How often are you trying? What is your sperm?) Or make stupid comments. (You just have to relax. You try very hard. My partner became pregnant after she started using the X supplement)
Try this: You and your partner are responsible for this trip. If someone asks you an unstable question you don’t have to answer. If one makes a non -sensitive comment, don’t take it to the heart. You know your situation better. Talk together how much you are willing to share and with whom you are willing to share it.
Putting your relationship on the rear burner. During the treatment of infertility, it is easy to remove from the tornado of the doctor’s appointments, hormones and tests. And all this happens in the middle of your daily life, which can have their own pressures.
Try this: This is the time to make your relationship a priority. You and your partner gathered for some reason. Think about what brought you close and what keeps your relationship stable. And don’t forget to have fun. Get out with friends, see a foolish movie, make a complex meal together. Share a hug or smile. Keep yourself connected.
You and your partner may not know what the future is for your family. But one thing you can know is that you are in it together, for now and for the future.
Resources
Fertilityiq.com
Jaeger-Skigen, Beth, LCSW
“Sex & COMSTILITY: How to reconnect sexually during infertility”
The magazine of sexual medicine
Gao, Jingjing, MM, et al.
“Relationship between sexual dysfunction and psychological burden on men with infertility: a large observation study in China”
(Summary. First Post: May 20, 2013)
Sexhealthmatters
‘Men with infertility’
Sexual medicine
Winkelman, William D., MD, et al.
‘The sexual impact of infertility among women looking for fertility care’
(Full text. Published online: May 7, 2016)
Webmd
Watson, Laurie J., LMFT
‘How to remain sexually attached during infertility treatment’
(5 June 2019)
