In my recent article, “The evolution of male age and the emergence of compassionate warriors”, I introduced you to the work of Dr. Sarah Hrdy, an anthropologist and primary and one of the world’s leading experts on the evolutionary basis of female behavior in both non -human and human beings. Dr. Hrdy has recently turned her attention to men.
In her book, Father Time: A Natural History of Men and Babies, Dr. HRDY destroys the myths that have kept men disconnected from our evolutionary, glorified God- (Kudos to Michael Dowd for his transformative book, Thank God for the evolution)– Data to care for, cultivate and keep our sons and daughters from birth to … forever.
I have read thousands of great books in my life and tried to write some of my own. To say that Father The world may change for good would be a devaluation. To say that the book is timely It would also be a devaluation. The news is full of stories about boys and men, most of them negative. We may wonder if there is something good for men. Father It’s not just a book about what is good for men, but it also offers a clear science that proves that men can keep the key that secretly unlocks our own survival as a species.
We do not need scientists to prove that people have a problem. We only need to hear the news (or even the weather report) to see that we are destroying our life support system and it does not seem to be able to hear those who are inviting us to change our ways before it is too late.
Thomas Berry was a priest, “geological” and historian of religions. He spoke eloquently about our connection with the Earth and the consequences of our failure to remember that we are a member of the community of life.
“I never knew enough, nor were we close enough with all our cousins to the great family of the earth, nor can we hear the various creatures of the earth, each by telling his own story. Time has come now, however, when we hear or die. ”
Father It offers stunning wisdom of what we can do differently. However, the book almost did not make it in print.
“Science needed much more than it should have recognized and reset men’s cultivation potential,” Dr. Hrdy reminds us. “They also needed more than I was expecting to finish what, as the years dragged, I began to refer to” this book alvinter “. Father It started in 2014, as I was eagerly thinking and then luxurious at the birth of my first grandson. ”
Continues to say,
“I watched with awe, as my groom tends him from birth, while my spirits were reinforced by the social trends that favored increased reproductive autonomy and their professional opportunities along with the broader definitions of what it means to be a human being.
“By the time I returned to the book, the counterparties aimed at reappearing the restrictions on both sexes and all sexes won the attraction, it was difficult for me to feel as optimistic as when I started.
Old beliefs for our men have hurt everyone
Dr. Hrdy freely admits that he has kept beliefs for men who are no longer valid. Good scientists are able to change their prospects when dealing with new elements, but not all scientists are able to admit that they have lost some critical information about men. We all have prejudices, but we don’t all recognize them.
“I have written whole books on maternal love and ambiguity,” says Dr. Hrdy, “with emphasis on the first.
However, like many scientists and the public, they have known a lot about what is natural for women, but have lost important truths about men for men.
“According to the Darwinian scenario standard,” says Dr. Hrdy, “While females cultivated babies, males were differently occupied, mainly competing for regime and comrades, often violent or forced.” [emphasis mine].
Ends up,
‘While a mother’s top priority is likely to be her children’s well -being, A male will be more than them. According to such Darwinian prejudices, In all cultures and through the historical times there are few, if there are, archives of men who turn their lives to babies as women do. Instead, what we find is an almost universal expectation that baby care is the job of women. ” [emphasis mine].
I shared my own early experiences with my two children in the article I mentioned above. Being with hands and cardiac attached The father with my children changed my life forever. The book by Dr. Hrdy Father It reads as a mystery novel that reveals deeper and deeper layers of the truth of men’s inherent ability to cultivate young children.
Says,
“It is a story that covers millions of years of vertebrates, mammals and particularly evolution of primates, followed by thousands of years of human evolution and history, indicated by numerous social transitions, cultural displacements and innovations.”
What he finally discovers is simple and deep:
“My unexpected finding is that there are ancient care tendencies within every human being there that make a man every so -so -protective and cultivation as the most dedicated mother. [emphasis mine].
Father Time and Father Earth: Treating ourselves, healing our relationship with the planet
Another wise grandmother who offers an inspirational novel for men is Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés, a special mestiza Latina Psychoanalyst and Post-Trauma, who has now grown almost disappeared oral and ethnic traditions. She is known for her book, Women running with wolves: myths and stories of the archetype of wild woman were on the list of the best New York Times sellers for 144 weeks.
I still remember sitting with 200 men and women in the Palace of Fine Arts in San Francisco in 1993, my wife, Carlin, and I was watching a special workshop for women and men, entitled “Ovarios Y Cojones: Maze Memory and Dr.
Towards the end of the day, Clarissa shared some poems, including “Father Earth”. As soon as she shared the title, the hairs on the back of my throat started crumpling. I knew I was going to hear something special. Here’s what he shared:
Father Earth!
There is men of two million years old, no one knows.
They cut into his rivers.
Avoid side pieces of his feet.
They left signs of burns to his buttocks.
He didn’t shout.
It doesn’t matter what they did to him. He didn’t shout.
He was holding steadily.
Now he lifts his stabbing and whispers that we can still heal him.
We start the bandages, the gauze rollers, the cut, the needle, the cuttings.
Slowly, carefully, we turn his body upwards.
And below him, his lifelong lover, the elderly woman is perfect and without marking.
He has put his two million year old lover all this time
Protecting it with his old back, with his old one, he turned back.
And the ground beneath it was fertile and black with her tears.
Like many in the audience I moved to tears. Even as I have mentioned in experience over the years in men’s concentrations, people are touching. A number of men commented,
“Finally, a woman finally understands what a male is really.”
And many men take a look at the deeper truth for men, women, creation and the future of mankind.
Thank you Clarissa and Sarah for sharing the wisdom of our grandmother, men, women and children. I would also like to thank another Elder in our community, Holly near, and the song of 1,000 grandmothers. Our local, Emandal Chorale, came with our children and grandchildren to sing the song in recent 4th of the July parade. I have still moved to tears seeing my friends, our children and our grandchildren and I participate in a new kind of independence. You can share the joy of our concentration here.
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