You and your partner probably have a lot in common. Or if you do not work, you are probably looking for common features in a future partner. Whether it’s a love of baseball, camping or rock concerts, these communities help you keep you close as a couple.
So what happens if your moves are not synchronized?
The existence of abused sex units is a common problem for couples, especially as their relationship matures. A partner may want sex all the time. The other may not be so interested. Does this mean there is a problem with the relationship?
Not necessarily. Some people are just wired to have higher sex movements than others. And that’s ok – until a mismatch happens. Partners who want more sex can get their partner’s rejection personally and feel frustrated and angry. Partners who do not want sex may feel guilty of disappointing their partner or get annoyed and pressed if they are constantly approached for sex.
If you find yourself in this situation, first consider whether a partner’s libido has changed over time.
Medical problems
Sometimes a medical issue causes a decline in sexual movement:
- Hormones. Sexual desire is largely driven by hormones and hormone production – both for men and women – changes over time. As men grow older, their bodies begin to make less testosterone, and some are less interested in sex. A woman’s libido can also be reduced during and after menopause when estrogen levels fall.
- Medicines. Some medicines, such as antidepressants, have sexual side effects that can include a dip in the sex drive.
- Interactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD).Women with HSDD develop a lack of sexual interest, along with discomfort, that cannot be easily explained by other factors.
Visiting and treating a doctor could be all they need to restore their sexual journey to the usual range.
Relationship problems
When people are injured or angry each other, they can feel less willing to have sex. Editing the conflict with a trained adviser or therapist can help couples better communicate with each other and decide on their goals, including sexual goals.
You can find out more about the causes of low sexual movement here. You will also find many useful links.
Making compromises
Sometimes inappropriate libidas have nothing to do with hormones or relationships. Some people are just more sexual than others.
Understanding this is the key to compromise. With this clear, couples can talk together to meet in the middle. Some strategies may include:
- Asking questions. Many couples scan sexual incompatibility under the carpet. But the chances are, if you feel a mismatch in the sex drive, your partner is too much. You have an open discussion of the situation in a time when you are not feeling angry or frustrated. Ask each other what you want and you need. Then try to form a plan.
- Understanding exactly what your partner’s needs are. It may be easy to say that one partner needs more sex than the other. But it may also be that the least sexual partner needs more non -sexual intimacy to feel sexually inclined. Try working for your friendship and romance. Think of the activities that can bring you together and cultivate your relationship. You can play games together, cook a great meal, stroll after dinner. This time it can enhance your emotional bond and, ultimately, your sexual relationship. You can cultivate this bond even when you are not together. If you are thinking about your partner during the working day, send a romantic email or text. Or pick up his favorite dessert at home.
- Expanding your sexual definitions and repertoire. By touching it, massage and hug while watching television are other ways to be familiar, which can satisfy the most sexual partner. Some people masturbate, either alone or with their partner watching, kissing or massaging. In this way, both partners can still be involved in a familiar act.
- Taking into account an open relationship. While this idea is not pleasant to everyone, some couples decide to extend their relationship to include others while still remaining committed to each other. Such sexual encounters may meet the sexual needs of one partner and provide relief for the other. However, such relationships receive negotiations and trust. Couples can decide to create rules, such as the ban on external tests in the family bed or the repeated test with the same person. After safe sex practices are also necessary.
- Stay honestly. In some cases, partners believe that termination or removal from the relationship (as opposed to negotiating an open) is the only solution for sexual incompatibility. They should be honest for their emotions and give their partner the opportunity to respond and make changes, if possible.
Remember that communication and respect are basic aspects of compromise. Staying open with your partner and processing a plan together can keep your relationship strong, even if your moves are different.
Resources
Trusting
Lebowitz, shana
“The most common pairs of problems have in bed, according to a relationship therapist”
(December 28, 2017)
CNN
Kerner, Ian
“When you and your partner have abused libidas”
(March 9, 2018)
Health.com
Burry, Madeleine
‘What do you need to do if your sexual movement is higher than his own’
(March 22, 2018)
Medical news today
Nall, Rachel, Rn, BSN, CCRN
“How does menopause affect sex?”
(December 10, 2017)
Psychology today
Meyers, Seth, Psy.d.
‘How couples can deal with different libidas, sexual desire’
(March 21, 2013)
Weiner-Davis, Michele, Msw
“9 vital tips for the partner with higher sexual movement”
(27 January 2010)
Sexhealthmatters
“What is causing your low sexual movement?”
(June 6, 2017)
