The real Vitacco family (summer 1985):
Frank (back), Nicky, Vinnie and Frankie
Being a Father has transformed my life since the moment I Held my Newborn Son, Jemal, Shortly After His Birth on November 21, 1969. Amid Tears of Joy and Relief that Both My Wife and Baby Came Throughe the Birth Process alive and well, I Made a vow that I would be a diffrent Kind of Father than Father was able to be for me and to do everything I could to create a world where men were full engaged with their families throughout their living.
I wrote about my father’s healing journey and me in my book, My distant dad: treatment of family father’s injury. At the beginning of the book, I gave the following excerpts that occupied the essence of the father who hurts me:
“A father may be of course present, but he is absent from the Spirit. His absence can be literal through death, divorce or malfunction, but more often it is a symbolic absence through silence and the inability to transmit what it may also have not acquired.” James Hollis
“Children have a hole in their souls in the form of their dad and if a father is reluctant or incapable of filling this role, he can leave a wound that is not easily healed.” Roland Warren.
In the introduction I said this:
“There is a problem that surpasses everyone else in its impact on men, women and society. It is the The wound of the family’s father. We focus on the importance of mothers to determine the well -being of children, but without the support of their fathers, men become puppets on a string, disconnected by their true selves, feels that others control their lives. The wound of the family’s father can be the most widespread, most important and less recognized problem facing men and their families today. ”
In addition to the memoirs of how I healed and spent a healthier legacy to my children, I created one Work book and course For men and women who have experienced the father’s wound.
Guys Night: A new movie for all who care about the future of our children
It is not surprising that I have a passionate interest in the mental, emotional and relational health of men or that I will respond positively to the following e -mail I received recently:
Hi Dr. Diamond,
I am a director who currently raises chapters for *guys night *, a powerful narrative movie inspired by my own childhood – growing up with a single dad in Chicago in the 1980s. The film explores emotional resilience, masculinity and paternity after divorce.
Your job has deeply inspired our approach. I would very much like to explore ways in which we could work together – either through a feature of relocation newsletter, a blog post about the film’s message or a podcast conversation about how narrative can help men cure.
Thanks for the incredible work you do.
Warmly,
Nikos Vitacco
I was excited to meet Nikos and the film’s director, Dave Eichhorn. I learned about the project and I wanted to support it:
Anthony Vitello, wife and father, does everything he can to provide stability to his family. Helen’s wife, a young mother, loves their boys, but is torn between the desire of a family life and her own life. When he leaves, Anthony finds himself increasing the three boys and constantly struggling to keep his family together. Tony, Dominic and Vinny are a narrow knit, noisy beam of pre-ephemeral joints, but they mean everything to their father.
In a world where fathers are often absent, I was deeply moved by the story of a father who stayed and put his children. I was even more inspired by Nick’s commitment to create a movie that gives us a look at a world that is very familiar with. I recently did an interview with Niko Vitacco and Eave Eichhorn. You can see Nikos and his two brothers with his father in the picture at the beginning of the article. You can watch my full interview here.
Nikos says,
“Our goal is to shed light on the reality of divorce in families. As a child who grew up only knowing the divorce and seeing the struggles that brought years to my parents and siblings, I have also testified to beauty and enlightenment about how to deal with it and to deal with it.
I like to write books and have written seventeen for the last forty years. But I like to watch movies that speak to the heart and soul of healing. A book is as powerful as the stories and feelings it brings to people. A picture, it is said, is worth a thousand words.
If, like me, you would like to see Nikos’ story and his strong film complete and be available in the world, you can do here. Go to their own web page And learn how to help. If you are a person or organization that works with men, this is your opportunity to help make a positive difference for men and their families.
“We are a low -budget SAG indie -budget – currently in the late stages of growth,” says Niko. “We are looking for generous donors to help us tell our story.
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