How to Dominate the Amazon Sex Site, According to a Sex Therapist

The Amazon sex pose is a fairly new sex pose and a serious internet sensation—for good reason. This female-dominated athletic pose has a lot to offer among fun and diverse sex positions.

Named after the mythical all-female warrior tribe, the Amazons, from ancient Greece. The Amazons are featured in many epic poems and stories, known for their fighting skills, strength, courage and beauty – oh, and for living on an island without men. The Amazons have resurfaced in recent pop culture because of him Wonder woman film, whose heroine (Diana Prince) is from the Amazon tribe.

With this story in mind, the Amazon Sex Stance was born. It’s empowering and daring, making it one of the best sex positions for women.

What is the Amazon’s sexual attitude?

The Amazon sex position is like a mix of cowgirl/rider positions and missionary sex. The owner of the vulva guides the penetrating partner – as in the cowgirl position – only the legs of the vulva pull up towards his chest.

Be warned, this position requires some serious flexibility, mobility and balance. But if you’re ready to give the Amazon sex site a whirl, here’s everything you need to know.

How to do the Amazon sex pose

1. The penetrating partner lies on his back and bends his knees 90 degrees on top of the table to begin. Ideally, they’ll pull their knees up to their chest—like the happy baby pose in yoga—but that’s not necessary for the pose to work.
2. The receiver seduces the donor, aligning the genitals and holding the lower legs or knees of the penetrating partner. This will help with their balance and support, but also reduce donor fatigue from holding their legs up.
3. The receiver is gently lowered onto the penis or receiver vibrator, moving slowly at first. Once in position, the receiver can bounce up and down, using its legs for leverage, or rotate with full control over speed and depth of penetration.

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Modifications to make Amazon’s position more pleasant

You can certainly add a range of sex toys for men and sex toys for women to your Amazon sex stand—just make sure you have the balancing act before you add something like cock rings.

1. Add a wand vibrator

This is a great position for sex toys. We would recommend a stick vibrator as the long base makes it easy for the rider to use themselves – providing much needed clitoral stimulation. The Doxy Extra Powerful Wand Massager is a great option for this. The cast aluminum head has a protective cover for added comfort and touch buttons to switch between settings and speeds. Just note that this needs to be plugged into an outlet when in use.

2. Try a vibrator or cock ring for couples

You can also incorporate a couples vibrator, which is designed to be worn during penetrative sex. We-Vibe Sync 2 and Dame Eva are great couple toys that get the job done. You can also try a vibrating ring like the Fun Factory Nos C-Ring.

3. Use a good quality lubricant

Finally, be sure to get a high-quality lube to improve comfort and overall pleasure. A water-based lube is always the best choice, especially if you’re using silicone sex toys, as a silicone lube can break down the toy over time. Some great options are Good Clean Love Almost Naked Lube, a water-based, aloe-based lube that is gynecologist-recommended and safe for use with silicone toys. and Lovehoney Water-Based Lube, which is compatible with all sex toys, as well as latex and polyurethane condoms.

The best sex variations Amazon position

Top Cat

Because it’s great

This is a slight variation on the Amazon sex position, since the receiving partner does not squeeze the giver. Instead, they kneel on the inside of their partner’s legs. This is great if the receiving partner has limited hip flexibility. After all, who needs to be so acrobatic when the same power dynamics can be achieved with greater ease?

How to do it

1. The penetrating partner lies on his back and bends his knees 90 degrees on top of the table to begin.
2. The receiving partner kneels between his legs, rather than squeezing them with his knees outside the donor’s hips.
3. The partner on top can lean forward on their hands for support or lie on their partner’s chest. The bottom partner can wrap their legs around the receiver’s back (this can help take pressure off the hip flexors).

Professional advice

The owner of the vulva can slide up and down his partner’s body to better stimulate the clitoris, as he would when doing the intercourse alignment technique.

Amazon reverse sex position

Because it’s great

Some people lose their inhibitions when they don’t have direct eye contact with their partner. This variation still gives control to the owner of the vulva, but removes his lines of sight.

How to do it

1. The penetrating partner lies on his back and bends his knees 90 degrees on top of the table to begin.
2. The owner of the vulva slowly squats over the vibrator or partner’s penis, facing outwards, and either balances on their feet (harder) or knees (easier).
3. Once settled, the owner of the vulva can place their hands on either side of their partner’s hips or stimulate their clitoris.

Professional advice

How you decide to move in this position is entirely up to you, but we suggest a gentle bounce or rocking back and forth.

Squat Cowgirl

Because it’s great

The cowgirl squat allows the receiver to keep the house energy alive without having to do any sexual heavy lifting. This position makes bouncing up and down quite easy as they have full leg power.

How to do it

1. The penetrating partner lies on his back and stretches his legs in the air to begin.
2. The owner of the vulva, squatting over the donor, facing him, lowers himself on his penis or vibrator, planting the soles of his feet next to the waist of his partner. Both partners can hold each other for support.
3. Think of it like a yogi squat — only with penetration. Bounce up and down, but be careful not to hurt the owner of the penis.

Professional advice

If the owner of the vulva starts to get the dreaded square burn, switch to the classic cowgirl. Because this requires a lot of hamstring flexibility for the donor, be sure to stretch first.

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Amazon sex position benefits

1. The Amazon sex position encourages direct eye contact, making it both warm and intimate.
2. It allows the owner of the vulva to access their clitoris quite easily as their hands are free. The rider may also be able to create some clitoral contact friction while riding, but this will depend on each individual’s anatomy.
3. Probably the most exciting benefit of Amazon’s sexual stance is the power play it offers. The owner of the vulva is in the dominant position, which can really turn cultural scripts upside down. There is something very hot about being dominated by your wife or partner. Engaging in power play is a fun way to spice up the eroticism in the bedroom and become better lovers. Not only is the Amazon a new and sporty position, but it also offers you and your partner alternate roles in the bedroom.
4. Speaking of the sports involved, we also rate this position for its visual appeal. Sometimes it’s fun to try some sexual stunts.
5. Finally, if you or your partner experience pain or discomfort during penetration, this position can be a lifesaver. Due to the position of the penis owner’s body, it is unlikely to be able to penetrate very deeply, which can help with the pain.

Potential Disadvantages of Amazon’s Sex Position

1. A big downside to Amazon sex is that it’s relatively advanced and difficult to do. Since this position requires the penetrating partner to bring his thighs up to his chest, it can cause hip discomfort. For the penetrator, it may be difficult to move up and down (or back and forth) while trying to hold their partner’s legs in place. You’ll also need some serious core strength to rock this one.
2. Another setback? This position is a designated LDP (long bird position). Because the penis must pass through the thighs of the inserting partner, length is crucial. It can become quite difficult, if not impossible, if the penis or vibrator is not long enough to reach it. While size certainly doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of great sex, different positions are better suited for different anatomies.

Fortunately, with our helpful games and variations, you can tailor this slot to work for you.

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Because you have to trust me

I have been in the sexuality field as an educator, author and therapist for over a decade. When it comes to the subject of sexual health and wellness, there is virtually nothing I haven’t written about and researched.

I am a COSRT registered, licensed sex and relationship psychotherapist specializing in Sexuality Gender and Relationship Diversity (GSRD). I am also an accredited GSRD therapist with Pink Therapy. I currently work for Therapy Yard, a psychosexual and relationship clinic in London, England.

In addition to my work at the clinic, I am also a writer. My first book, All the wrong mistakes, released by St. Martin’s Press in 2020 and it’s all about embracing your sexy self and living your best life.

My work appears regularly in many publications including Cosmo, Glamour, Men’s Health, and Refinery29.